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Alternative Lifestyle Personals Advice Line
The Alternative Lifestyle Personals Advice Line lets you ask all those questions you always wanted and then get advice from all the members of ALT.com. If you have a question to ask, just enter it. Our staff will then review the question and post it below.

The following list the current questions, just click the link to give your advice!

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1. Soaked to the core - 10/8/2004
Often when my boy lover eats my pussy, I get to a point where I am full on squirting and gushing all over the place.
At first I was so embarrassed because I believed I was pissing everywhere, but I get the idea that is more likely to be creative juices that flow through my pussy.
I am keen to hear from other women who experience this.
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2. Are there any real Doms at alt??? - 10/7/2004
I have been here over a year and all I have found so far are vanilla's, game players, and wannabees, isn't there anybody here who will just take me and make me Thiers?
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3. How do I get my Boyfriend more involved? - 10/7/2004
Hello,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months and have had an active sexual relationship since day one. I am into mild bondage, and sometimes like to be spanked or have some rough play. He and I have talked about it on more than one occasion, so he knows how I feel and what I am looking for. But he seems hesitant to do so. On one or two occasions I have tied him up in satin ribbons, and afterward he had a highly positive response. Is there a way I can get him to feel more comfortable with playing rough with me in the bedroom? Or how can I get him to more actively participate in the rough housing?
Thank You, Kindakinky
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4. How do you help your partner decide if they're Dom, or sub? - 10/7/2004
My partner has recsently decided that she is not sure she is submissive. But isn't sure she wants to try being dominant. How can I help her with this? Toshaman 10/07/04
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5. Are there any real female slaves on Alt? - 10/7/2004
Are there any real female slaves on Alt? I have sent out numerous emails to various female sub/slaves on Alt and have very rarely gotten a reply but most time I get no replies what so ever. Are there any real female slaves on Alt or is Alt kicking up its female membership by putting in Bots and Ringers? Or is Alt's email system just that worthless that my emails never get through? So what is the deal...Are all the sub/slaves on Alt just rude and dont respond at all or are they fakers made up by Alt?
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6. Can the staff please add "pregnant" or "pregnancy" to the fetish list? - 10/7/2004
Considering the very complete list of fetishes to choose from, it would be great to have one that is surprisingly common and one that is so hard to indulge day to day and would be so wonderful to be able to readily find here.
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7. Overcoming anal hangup - 10/6/2004
Okay, this is a bit embarrassing to ask but, I can’t think of a better place to ask such a question and get honest replies instead of others making fun or being sarcastic.
I fantasize and role-play and even write about it in my personal short erotic stories that I write, but other then light anal play and a small plug or thin vibrator I seem to have some mental block up about anal sex. Its something that I not only desire, but crave, and fantasize about at great length, and yet even if all play with fingers, toys, intensity, whatever goes well, and I am comfortable and not tense or scared, the –moment- I am penetrated by a cock in my ass I panic, whimper and plead to stop, that it –hurts- and a time or two even spill tears.
Now the plugs, vibrator, anal bead, fingers do not get that response and usually has me writhing for more, but its like a instant light switch when penetrated then. Does it hurt? In my mind it does and it’s a very real –pain-. Is it hurting the entire length? No, actually its –JUST- the anal rim that hurts and burns and feels like its being ripped. Is He too big? I can say no to that as well as the toys and anal play we have had involves sizes that are smaller, the same, and yes, even larger then He is.
How can I get over this mind block to further enjoy something that I truly wish to experience and explore? Am I simply disturbed and alone in this issue, or are others out there that have either had this problem and have overcome it or are out there that are themselves struggling with this very issue?
Any suggestions, help, guidance in this will be greatly appreciated.
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8. how long can she cum? - 10/6/2004
It takes My lady awhile to reach an orgasm..but once she does..she NEVER wants to stop, she is like the energizer bunny with batteries in backwards..(cumming and cumming..) is there a limit to how long u should allow a woman to cum? i dont mean how many times..i am talking one continues O that hits high points and low..but the high points ...i have to hold her down..is this safe or not?
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9. Inviting Others? - 10/6/2004
It seems that the inviting members to your network is an on and off again switch that is preventing me to invite others to my network of friends. Do any other members have this problem?
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10. anal intrusion - 10/6/2004
i recently had a girl flip when i merely slid a finger up her ass-are there really still women out there who actually see ass play as being dirty??
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11. Questions about past relationships and curiousity about the life style. - 10/5/2004
In my past relationship I ended up with a partner who was severely jealous and cheated on me.Now im in a wonderful marriage with someone who encourages me in all my curosities, Including sexually. My issue is that of being afraid of the same reprocussions I had previously, while he is understanding I feel bad because By setting the rules all the time I feel as if Im cheating him out of the maximum pleasure he could be getting. How do I deal with this?
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12. Getting responses to my messages. - 10/5/2004
I don’t know about anyone else, but it seems I am always getting the runaround for those that are interested in possibly meeting. What do I need to do in order to get their attention and keep it? I visit alt.com daily, and those that do show they are interested don’t bother to even write back when I write to them. What am I doing wrong? Could I please get some advise on this?
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13. fell at wrong time - 10/5/2004
Hi, I am in a new relationship, well not really new it has been going for about 4 months, It is great he is a wonderful man & oh my god has he opend my eyes to alot of new things... He is 39 I am 24 He is so wonderful in and out of the bedroom, to me and to my kids, Now I have fallen in love w/ him, but not sure really what to say or do...Don't want to push the issue but sure as hell can't keep it in much longer.
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14. Comparing Vanilla to BDSM-D/s? - 10/5/2004
Alright...I normally wouldn't ask other people's advice but I really need it because I'm confused.
I've been with a man for the past 15-16 months. He is completely vanilla...though claims he wishes to explore things with me, but isn't open to the BDSM-D/s lifestyle. I am a switch and would like to explore both sides of myself. I have applied to Train and serve under a Master, which makes me tremble now just thinking about it, and what he has to offer. I love this man that I'm with, but I also crave and ache to learn who I really am in this lifestyle under this Master's wing.
What should I do? Help me!? -frowns-
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15. rope bondage - 10/5/2004
My question is simple: where can I find instructions on Japanese rope bondage? My partner and I are very interested in rope play but are currently limmited to making it up as we go along. I'm sure we could benefit from some instruction on rope methods. We're kinda cheap, so mailordering for books is the obvious but not favored solution. anybody know of any free sources of information?
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